are your results a self-fulfilling prophecy?
This month I'm excited to change gears to coach you through some common mindset blocks, and teach you how to perform some self-coaching.
This self-coaching method was taught to me in a business context, but it works for pretty much all aspects of life including climbing!
The "Get Coached Model" is a tool created by The Life Coach School to recognize unintentional thoughts. (For additional information: The Life Coach School booklet)
The premise of the model is that unintentional thoughts can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The results then reinforce the unintentional thoughts and the cycle continues.
Here are the 5 pieces to the model, and how they interact and influence each other.
https://thelifecoachschool.com/self-coaching-model-guide/
And here is how these pieces are defined:
Circumstances- neutral facts
Thoughts- sentences in your head
Feelings- emotions that come from your thoughts
Actions- what you do, don't do, or react to
Results- consequences of your actions, inactions, or reactions
The most important thing to keep in mind is that circumstances are always neutral, inarguable facts. It is our thoughts and feelings that make a circumstance seem "good" or "bad".
For example, "I'm short" is not a neutral fact. Some people may say "oh you're not that short," or "you're tall compared to me!". The neutral fact would be your actual height, for example, "I'm 5'0”” because it's objective and inarguable.
"I'm short" is a thought that you have about the circumstance of your height. You then have feelings about your "I'm short" thought, which then influence your actions and in turn your results.
Using the tool, or "running a model", means identifying and writing out an unintentional cycle then reframing it to be more intentional to create a different result.
Let's run through one together using the "I'm short" example that I actually experienced when trying a climb, "Room with a View" V10.
On this climb I was convinced that because of my height, I wouldn't be able to use the standard beta.
This led to me spending tons of time, energy, and skin trying to work through a "shorty" method without even trying the standard method.
It wasn't until my partner, Davis, suggested I actually try the regular beta that I finally gave it a go..
Turns out it was what I should have been trying all along because I ended up doing the boulder with the standard method 😅
Unintentional Model
Circumstance: I’m 5’0”
Thought: I'm short. There’s no way I can use the standard method. I wish I could do it that way, but I HAVE to do it differently.
Feeling: frustration, resentful of my height
Action: stubbornly keep trying shorty methods, don't try standard beta
Result: don't do the moves, don't do the climb - use this as evidence that I can't do the boulder because I'm short which cycles back to the original thought
I could have saved time and energy had I taken a second to reframe and be more intentional with my thoughts and feelings.
Intentional Model
C: I’m 5’0”
T: Here's a boulder I haven't tried before, I can try the standard beta first before deciding if I need to find my own way.
F: neutral emotions, seeking more information about the climb, open to learning
A: try the standard beta
R: get close with the standard beta, continue dialing it, send boulder
What do you think of the self-coaching model? Take some time this week to run through some models yourself!
